Tomorrow I will have been living in Devon for 40 days. (There’s that pesky number 40 again!!!)
40 days of pub work, living on a campsite, making new friends, walking lots but most importantly, a chance to ‘stop’ and reflect on where I am and where I am headed.
My reasons for being in Devon are to try and work out what I’m doing with my life.
Because we all need a plan, right?
This trip was intended to sort out my head a bit. I know from past experience that I find it impossible to sort anything out when I am at ‘home’ – my friends laugh at me for not settling, never wanting to be in one place for too long but the truth is, I love the excitement of learning about new places and people – because in these moments, I learn the most about myself.
Also living closer to nature, leading a simple life, strips away the constant stimulation of ‘stuff’ that we have in our homes, the shops, our jobs. This brings us closer to who we are deep down.
Waking up to this view every morning has been a great start to my days:
Connection is powerful.
Especially connection with people and places you have not experienced before. Having new conversations stretches your thinking, generates new ideas and opinions and encourages the stimulation of change within. Spending time with people from different backgrounds, ages, views, facilitates reflection on who you are, where you’ve come from and where you are going. It’s an amazing feeling of community when a bunch of strangers find themselves together but share common values, supporting each other and being like family. I have experienced all of this in 40 days and loved every moment, every insight, every thought provoking conversation and thought that I have had. And I have made friends for life.
My lessons in this short period have been quite overwhelming. I have been meditating lots and spending time really looking deeply into my hopes, dreams and desires for the future and this is what I have realized.
Staying in the same place means you will have the same experiences.
Staying still means things don’t change. You have to move, you have to challenge yourself – this is how you grow and develop as a person.
This is how you make your future different to your past, if that’s what you want. But the first thing you have to do is have a vision about how you want your life to be. How you want to feel when you wake up each day. This has to be the starting point for everything else to work towards.
My plans after next week – don’t exist yet. My plan for the future is to wait and see what happens. This is my choice of how to live my life. I know it sounds alien to most people but I am being true to myself.
My future vision is to have a big house or some land in the countryside, probably a few kids and dogs running about. Leading a peaceful and stress free lifestyle, living sustainably and simply without the clutter of too much ‘stuff’. Hosting retreats to help people ‘escape their bubble’ and make changes in their lives that they have always dreamt of.
I am working towards this happening in the next couple of years and it will. In the meantime, travel and seeing the world is my plan. Helping people I meet along to way to escape their bubbles and see the world differently.
Being a catalyst for change. This is my calling.
I know it’s a contradiction. To change you have to have a vision but to make it happen you need to stand still. Wait. Don’t try to control the future, it will unravel as its meant to and if you try and push things before they are ready, this will take you off course and cloud your true path. I have become so comfortable with this feeling but it took time and a lot of trust in my own heart. Patience truly is a virtue.
So stop right now and really think about you future.
Don’t think about the things going on now, imagine you have a blank slate and can design the life of your dreams. What would that look like? Where would you live? What work would you do? How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? What does your day look like? What does your home look like? Who are you living with? Who are you?
This is your future vision. From this moment forward, every decision you make should be working towards making this dream a reality. And trust me – now you have put it out to the universe, the universe will be conspiring with you to make it happen. Every day do one small thing that takes you closer to you dreams.
But be aware, at times when you don’t think you deserve it, or are angry about something that happened in the past, you can make decisions that contradict your future vision – this takes you a step back to where you have come from, not forward to where you want to be. And in these moments we stop dreaming. We become stagnant, sad and weary and believe things can’t change. Well believe me, they absolutely can.
So keep that dream image in your mind from now on and think about it a lot.
Write it out.
Put it by the mirror in your bathroom and read it aloud morning and night.
Put it as your screen saver on your phone.
Put it everywhere you can see it.
Write it in the present tense as though you are already living in your dream life.
So what happens next?
That’s up to you.
Anything can happen.
Life is so short to not take chances when they arise. Live your reality and no-one else’s. Make decisions that align with your hopes and dreams and follow your heart – it truly already knows who you want to become.
Know that every single day you have a choice. To stand still and stay where you are or take risks, break out of the bubble and really chase your dreams. They are just over there, waving at you, calling you over and willing you to make the right choices to take you a step closer to realizing them.
Be bold. Be brave. Be you.
Yours in happiness,
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